Holy moly, we're coming up on our first anniversary here in Texas! I think we closed on our house like July 30th or 31st of last year. I've heard that a moving trend is as follows: the first year is terrible, the second year is a breath of fresh air and a feeling of "maybe I can do this", and by the third year you love it.
Accordingly, this first year was supposed to be terrible.
Now, rewind to my first year of marriage. How many of you all heard that the first year of marriage is the hardest? So much for well wishes and words of encouragement-- that little did bit gets thrown into the mix more often than it should! Having heard at least a thousand times how hard the first year of marriage was going to be, Yosh and I often made comments before reaching our first anniversary how we didn't know what anyone was talking about! We felt like we were nailing it and that we must be the anomaly. Can you believe we even enjoyed our first year?
But there is something- actually A LOT- to be said about perspective. A couple of our first year issues that immediately come to mind: I remember giving Yosh the silent treatment a few of those days, we fought over whether or not Yosh would come to my family reunion with me (he did come), or my mission reunion for that matter (he didn't come), and we didn't agree on curfew (Yosh loved played Halo with his buddies at their apt til 3, 4, or 5 in the morning::).) This is just my side of the issues- who knows what Yosh could add to the list. All this to say, that while in our state of "nailing it", we were doing a lot of growing and figuring out how we were going to function as a couple. We have come a long way from those days. But in the present, it was all we knew and we spent a lot of days where we were on the same page and all through the year, we still enjoyed each other's company. Our first year was far from a living hell. Please take strong note of my next comment: I hope to not have to go back to my first year of marriage. Fingers crossed this is my only marriage. Fingers crossed that Yosh and I maintain our relationship so that we're not at a crossroads where starting over is the only remedy to saving our marriage. That first year was a great building block and necessary step to be where we are now, but...been there, done that.
So, having completed our first year here in Texas and while still lacking perspective, I can honestly say it hasn't been that bad at all. In fact its' been good. Our family is thriving, I'm learning a lot about myself, I've taken good care of myself despite not being surrounded by familiar people and places, and I'm not completely depressed and ready to throw in the towel. I can also say I've met a lot of great people and have found a lot of things I genuinely enjoy and appreciate about Austin (the food and water activities.)
Would I move to SoCal if the opportunity arised?
In a heartbeat without a second thought.
I'm curious what my take will be on year one when we have a few more years under our belt.
But for now, I'm looking over the last year with a good taste in my mouth and without too many complaints.