"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Since counseling has been in our life for the past two+ years relationships and dynamics with friends, family, co-workers, bosses, etc. have totally changed. (for both me and especially Sam) But I think for the better! Of course its always kind of sad when friendships maybe fizzle or aren't as close as they used to be...but at the same time when we look at how they were when things were close, they were unhealthy. either one person was not being their "authentic" self, Or the other was always giving/ taking whichever it may be. And that can be exhausting and it's not realistic or healthy. If they really matter and value you and who you are, they will change, adjust, and respect you for you. And that change can totally happen unconsciously for them! They will subconsciously notice your are treating them differently, or holding them to a different expectation or not tolerating certain things from them, and they will either react to it or run from it. Change is always uncomfortable...but if you are doing your part and being your authentic self good will always come from it. I love you for you! Your honesty is what has always drawn me to you as a friend! I know where we stand, what your thinking, who you are. I love it, keep up the good work girlfriend! xoxo
thanks for your words, cam! you definitely are one smart girl and i feel pretty lucky to know you! xoxo
At first when I was reading this, I was like "FAIL!" how could you make people not like YOU? (And this coming from someone who doesn't like anyone. Kidding!...kind of..). Oh, Gay, I think you are so delightful! and I'm so glad we met at Alt Summit! This blog of yours has become a favorite to read because you're so honest and insightful - and hilarious. Forget those others and just be you, girl. What's that old saying? "Sometimes in order to fly, you have to cut the ties that hold you down"..something like that :)
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